As a parent, you’re supposed to protect your children from harmful situations. You feel helpless when there’s nothing you can do. That’s precisely how Tomas felt when he realized something wasn’t right with his daughter. She was such a happy and outgoing child until she started school. That’s when everything went downhill, and it caused Tomas to put some drastic measures into place. He needed to find out what his daughter couldn’t tell him. What would you do if it was your child? There’s nothing more powerful than a parent’s love, and this story of Tomas and his daughter is a perfect example.
The First Day at School
Starting school isn’t very easy for kids. In most cases, it’s a hard adjustment, and children’s worlds are turned upside down. That’s why parents need to be there. In general, children need support, but more so in significant moments of change, like starting school for the first time.
Something Wasn’t Quite Right
Starting school for the first time can be challenging, but what makes it even worse is having a horrible teacher. Something wasn’t okay with Tomas’s daughter after starting school, and a part of him knew it wasn’t the typical ‘settling into new surroundings’ situation.
She Didn’t Want To Go To School
Eventually, things came to a breaking point for Tomas when his daughter began crying every morning and refused to go to school. It was passed the point of just being nerves. Now he knew something was seriously wrong and needed to get to the bottom of it.
She Won’t Tell
Tomas’s daughter refused to tell her dad and mom about what was upsetting her. That didn’t take away from the fact that her parents knew there was something wrong. Her excitement and joy had vanished at an alarming rate, and it was time to fix it.
How They Raise Their Children
Tomas and his wife had a specific mindset on how to raise their children. They believed that nourishment, positivity, and support were vital to ensure their children grow to be successful adults. That’s when they realized that someone might be hindering this foundation.
Thinking Long and Hard
The more Tomas thought about it, the more he began realizing that something must be going on at school. However, he struggled to find a way to figure out precisely what it was that was affecting his daughter so badly. That’s when he started devising a plan.
He knew he had to figure out what was going on at the school. However, he also knew that he couldn’t go to the school to investigate because the teachers or students would act differently. He needed to hear exactly what he was sending his child into every day.
Finally, Tomas had an idea. His solution was to literally ‘listen in’ to what was happening at the school. How was he going to do that? He made a small audio device that would allow him to listen to everything his daughter was being exposed to.
How Did He Do That?
Tomas was very creative in his approach to finding out what was wrong with his daughter. He placed the listening device carefully in his daughter’s hair. This allowed him to hear everything that was going around his daughter without exposing what he was doing.
She Didn’t Know
Tomas was very clever about what he was doing. He thought and planned everything. Tomas knew that he couldn’t tell his daughter about the listening device in her hair. He didn’t want her distracted by it all day, and she was so young that she could have accidentally exposed what her father was doing.
Drastic Times Call For Drastic Measures
Tomas knew this was drastic, but he never questioned his sanity. Most parents would think that this is too far, but Tomas was sick at the thought of how his daughter’s emotional state had been affected, and he was going to do all he could to find out more.
The Waiting Period
Tomas couldn’t stop thinking about it all day. He kept thinking about everything that his daughter must be experiencing right at that time. He just wanted her home so that he could get down to the bottom of what exactly was going on.
The Time Had Come
Finally, it was home time, and Tomas’s daughter was in her family home’s safe space. Armed with the listening device, Tomas got to listening and what he heard was infuriating. Anger was spread across his entire body as he listened to the recording.
The Troubling Teacher
Tomas’s suspicions were correct. It just goes to show that a parent’s gut doesn’t lie. He realized that his daughter’s teacher was abusing her power, which only fueled Tomas’s anger. He felt betrayed that someone they were paying to care for their child was the one hurting her.
Teachers Shouldn’t Do That
Tomas struggled to wrap his head around what he was hearing. He couldn’t believe that a teacher would behave this way. How could this teacher say such offensive things in such a nasty tone? What was he to do about the information he was armed with?
The Next Step
A protective nature comes out of parents when they see their children being mistreated. This was precisely the case for Tomas. However, he knew he couldn’t lose his temper over it and needed to keep a level-head to get something productive done.
Tomas didn’t want to take it up with the teacher because he knew it wouldn’t go anywhere, and he would end up getting angry. Instead, he decided to take the issue up with the public school district. He couldn’t let this go.
Not What He Wanted
Although Tomas did everything by the book and brought compiling evidence against the teacher, the school district failed to respond sufficiently. He was disappointed that the school district didn’t find the teacher’s actions as revolting as he did. How could this be?
Matters in His Own Hands
After the school district’s underwhelming response, Tomas decided that he needed to fix the problem himself. To him, the teacher getting a warning wasn’t good enough. He needed to make sure this would never happen again. You won’t believe what he decides to do.
The school did make an attempt to smooth things over by offering to switch his daughter to another class. However, Tomas wasn’t satisfied because he knew that there were other helpless children at the school that were still enduring the teacher’s abuse.
Not Just About His Daughter
Tomas may have felt that the issue could be laid to rest after the school district suggested moving his daughter out of Mrs. Duncan’s class. However, that wasn’t good enough. He put himself in the other kids’ shoes. She could be doing this to others.
Those Kids Are Being Affected Too
Tomas had empathy for the other kids in the class and their parents. He knew that those kids were also feeling the same way as his daughter was, and the parents were just as much in the dark as he once was.
It Was His Responsibility to Do the Right Thing
He felt sick that the thought of letting the teacher carry on teaching the way she was with his daughter. He had to inform people about what was happening. It was only fair for the other parents and the public to know.
Preventing Childhood Trauma
Thanks to Tomas, many people gained information on the bullying being committed by Mrs. Duncan. This gave parents the power to decide if they wanted their children around that abuse. Thus, saving many children from trauma and a lifetime of thinking about this.
Helping the Kids
Tomas and the other parents protested to remove the teacher, Mrs. Duncan, out of the position she was in. The parents were adamant that their children couldn’t be put in an environment like the one the teacher had created at the school.
No Help from the School
The school didn’t budge and continued to support the decision to keep Duncan on as staff. The parents were outraged, but that didn’t stop Tomas. He was ready to fight this and stop Duncan from teaching, once and for all.
The parents’ outraged caused action. This action led to a petition being created with the purpose to remove Mrs. Duncan from her position as a teacher. Tomas received a lack of support in his early attempts to get justice. However, things quickly started to change when he started this petition on Change.org.
It came as a shock when Tomas was placed in the middle of the media’s spotlight. The local news jumped on Tomas’s story as soon as the journalists found out what was happening. He was admired for his tremendous determination to get justice for his daughter.
Shared With the Nation
The story became rapidly popular and spread across the nation. Even though Mrs. Duncan hadn’t been fired yet, the immense amount of support he received gave him hope that things would soon turn around. Tomas became well known for his work on this.
Tomas did exactly what every good parent would do. He saved his child from a potentially large amount of childhood trauma that she might have suffered for many years. There are endless negative possibilities that could have stemmed from Tomas’s daughter remaining in Mrs. Duncan’s care.
Mrs. Duncan is still teaching, even after all the information was shared with the nation. This may be disheartening for most people, but not Tomas. He still hopes that something is going to be done about her and this situation, as it has been too long.
The Failure of the School District
Many people are disgraced at the poor way the school district has handled the situation, especially because Mrs. Duncan is still teaching and potentially damaging children’s emotional states with her bullying and abusive language. This is pretty sad considering what Tomas found.
The Role of a Teacher
A teacher has the responsibility of improving the minds and imagination of children. There is a reason that teachers are the second most impactful figure in a child’s life behind their parents. They leave a lasting effect on a child.
What Mrs. Duncan Did
Mrs. Duncan did precisely what a teacher shouldn’t do. She belittled, humiliated, and bullied the children she taught. This has a significant impact on a child’s self-image and confidence. Her actions were deplorable as an educator, and even as a person!
One Can Only Hope
Even though Mrs. Duncan is still in a position of power, one can only hope that she has learned something from this ordeal. Hopefully, she has realized the issues in her teaching methods and made the appropriate changes to herself and the way she teaches.
Made Peace with It
Tomas has come to accept the decision made by the school district. That doesn’t mean he’s happy with it, but he has made peace with it for the sake of his family. He is happy that his daughter is in a better environment.
A Better Dad
To not let the situation harden him with anger, Tomas looks at the positives. He believes this whole experience has made him a better father. He realized how crucial it is to pay careful attention to the way his children act and feel.
No matter what, Tomas has realized that he is going to be there for his children. Even in situations where he feels powerless, he now knows that he can do a lot. There is nothing stronger than a parent’s love.
The Damage Isn’t Permanent
Tomas has reflected on the situation a lot, and he was grateful that he saw the signs before it was too late. Thankfully, the damage was reversible, and his daughter is back to how she was before being taught by Mrs. Duncan.
Impacted Many Lives
In helping his daughter, Tomas also saved many other children’s lives from trauma and emotional issues. His actions that were aimed to help his daughter helped many more parents’ daughters and sons in the process. He has certainly left a legacy for himself.